I had lunch today with my friend Jean Abrahamson, Cincinnati’s “Miss Manners.” She has written
a charming children’s book titled “Manners are Magic.” Each page is a chapter and written to
appeal to children. Jean has been a teacher in the Cincinnati school system for over 40 years and
teaches 3 year olds up to seniors in high school. Her book is available at Barnes and Nobel and
Joseph Beth Bookstores. Her book is $7.00.
Jean has seen over the years how young children in today’s world are not receiving the training
they need to become charming, honorable, respectful people. It is the parents job to
teach this information to their children. It is knowledge that builds good self esteem. Single parent
homes are prevalent and time is short; however there is still a need to teach this information
to your children. Jean says the young children are very receptive to learning manners and are
always proud to show her the good manners she has taught them. She recently met a high
school graduate who told her he learned his manners from her in grade school and still uses them.
He said he was going to college to become a lawyer. She told him to be sure to take all those
earrings out of his ear and face before he applied. He said he would. Jean has a sincere helpful voice.
From someone else, it could sound offensive. Even your voice should be charming.
The whole point of manners is to learn to be kind and helpful to others. In a civilized society,
we must all be respectful to each other. One of Jean’s sayings is “No one is better than
anyone else.”
Another of Jean’s sayings is “If you are looking for a helping hand, look at the end of your arm.”
Jean always signs her books, “Keep the Magic in your Life.”
I hope you get a chance to meet Jean Abrahamson someday or at least read her book
“Manners are Magic.”
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Uncle Sam, also known as the Government of the United States of America has no money.
Uncle Sam’s unending source of income comes directly from each Law-Abiding Citizen’s pocket
in the form of taxes. Uncle Sam may borrow money from a lot of other nations, but he still
has to pay it back WITH INTEREST using tax money which comes directly from our pockets.
Uncle Sam is now spending trillions of dollars; does anyone know if that even includes the interest
that must be paid on these loans? We know how some government officials cannot or do not even
read some of the bills that they vote for. Income comes from many sources but for most of us it comes
from working at a job. In 2010, job loss is at an all time high. Uncle Sam’s answer is to spend
more money that he does not have. This is the first time in the history of America that Uncle Sam
now has his hand in the pocket of at least two generations of children who have not even been
born. What kind of legacy is that? We are not free when we are dependent on the government.
We have seen the housing market crash because people spent money they did not have and have
no money to pay for it. The rules of common sense and math never change. Uncle Sam
will go bankrupt if he keeps spending money we do not have. When there are no jobs and
when taxes are so high that the wealthy people will just leave the country and take their money
with them, who does Uncle Sam tax then? When does Uncle Sam stop spending?
Common sense can predict the answer. You can’t do everything even if you are Uncle Sam.
One project must be eliminated in order to pay for something more pressing. It is called
pay as you go.
This is the same situation as a parent spoiling his child. A spoiled child is a handicapped child
because he never learns how to take care of himself.
Our government officials are elected from among ourselves. We cannot expect more of them
than we expect of ourselves. If we each hold our self to higher standards and expect
people in a civilized nation to behave in an honorable, civilized, law abiding manner,
America will return to the glory days for all her citizens.
“A Year of Good Manners” by Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk, $27.95 is a way to
give something back to your country by learning how to hold yourself to a
higher standard. It takes no government mandate or higher taxes to make
America a better place; It only takes honorable, civilized, law abiding people.
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Not only do children hear what you say, they watch what
you do. All adults
are roll models for children whether
you like it or not.
There is no opting out. You are
either a good role model or a bad roll model.
Children by age 8 are expected to have the same table
manners
as their parents or better.
By teaching your children honor, respect and good manners
early in their life, you give them a chance to develop
common sense and good self esteem. These are tools
which will help them recognize and decide what is good
and what is bad for them.
“People with good manners have a lifetime advantage in
their personal and professional lives.” says
Margery Sinclair
We recommend everyone read “A Year of Good Manners”
by Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk at least once.
This is a reference book that you will be delighted to
have in your library.
The book may be purchased on line at www.janpolk.com for
$27.95.
You may also order the book at www.margerysinclair.com.
Margery also offers classes and corporate workshops.
See and hear Margery Sinclair in her own words tell you
about “A Year of Good Manners” by
Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk. Margery is being interviewed July 15, 2010, by
co-host Tiffany Ogle,
and sub co-host Lisa
Manna filling in for regular co-host Molly Fay from the Milwaukee NBC affiliate
show “The Morning Blend.” http://www.themorningblend.com/videos/98499189.html
The artwork in the book is Jan Polk’s Great American Flower
Collection “respect series” fine art
watercolor images which are reminders to treat yourself and
others with respect.
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businesses, charities and events of interest to those living in southeastern
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When I am at book signings for “A Year
of Good Manners” by Margery Sinclair and
Jan Polk, I often hear the comments,
“They used to teach this information.” or
“My daughter in law needs to read this
book.”
Parents are the ones who should be teaching
this information and they should be modeling
this information for their children. All adults
are role models when
in public and at any
gathering of human beings.
You may say you don’t
want to be a role model…..but you are! It is only
a question of whether you are a good role model
or a poor role model….and that is your personal
choice. You are free
to make your choice; however,
you have a civic duty to behave decently to others
at all times.
Respect, Good Manners and the Rule of
Law are the tools that make the United
States of America one of the greatest
nations on earth for all of us. No matter
how bad it is for some of us, it is still
far worse somewhere else in the world.
Because of the Rule of Law and because of good
manners, each of us in civilized society
can feel safe in our homes because the majority
of us are respectful, honorable, civilized
law abiding people.
By the time you are age 5, your values have
been formed. It is up
to parents to teach
our children to be respectful to themselves
and to others. This
is not information
we are born with. It
must be taught. The
good news is one can overcome a poor home
environment just by learning these at any
age. It is never too late to hold yourself
to a higher standard.
“What does good manners have to
do with home invasions?”
Here a just a few good manners tips from
AYOGM:
“If you break it, fix it.
If you can’t fix it, find
someone who can—and pay the bill. If it
belongs to someone else and you want to
use it, ask permission.”
Common sense
then develops and one can reason
that you do not go on private property
without being invited and you don’t take
anything unless you ask permission. The laws
of the land also state it is illegal to
break into a home and take something
that is not yours.
There are laws
to punish those who break the laws.
By teaching your children honor, respect
and manners you have taken the first
steps to empowering them so they know
what is expected of them in the civilized
world and making this
a better world for
all of us. There is
never any justification
to steal from others.
The police cannot be everywhere. They
depend on the majority of us to be an honorable,
civilized, law abiding citizens who work
with the police department when necessary.
If the police aren’t there, we must then
depend on ourselves.
Thank goodness
for Respect and
Manners and the Second
Amendment.
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gender, or
upbringing, you alone can correct this problem and not have
to spend long hours and hard earned money on anger
management
classes
The cause of your problem is poor manners. The solution to
your anger management problem is to use the following
tip from Etiquette Consultant Margery Sinclair and you will
be a much happier person.
“Behave decently to
others, show consideration when there is
conflict, and
maintain composure when displeased.
Knowing
etiquette makes you
feel relaxed and confident.”
All it takes is a little practice. Try it.
You will like it. Remember,
actions taken in anger only makes things worse and it shows
you are out of control……which is making you mad in the
first
place. When you blow
up, you might as well wear a sign that says
I am out of control,
no one listens to me, you win, I don’t know how
to handle this
situation, I don’t like myself, go ahead and snicker.”
As long as you
maintain composure, you are in control and
you maintain respect for yourself and others.
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Mark your calendar now! Jan Polk will be at the authors’ tent along with a few others on ,
July 10,
2010 from
Authors Stroll
in
Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk.
Waynesville is known as the “Antiques Capital of the
things going on this weekend including a car show, an
antique show, our arts show,
& sidewalk sales at the shops. We are looking forward to
great weather (finally).
See you Saturday!
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have been shaped.
It is so important to teach children to value themselves
because of their honor
(we can trust what they say) and because they are respectful,
civilized, law
abiding citizens. .
The goal of civilized society is to remain calm when displeased
and to show respect for life including your own. You don’t have to like everyone
you meet, but you do have to be respectful to all human
beings. When you install
values in your children solely on how they look
(pretty fades) or how much money
they have or don’t
have (there will always be someone who has
more) they will never
have good self esteem
and will always feel unsettled and may even develop unlikable
traits. When you destroy a child’s self esteem and try to
control their every move, you
have done a disservice to your child and to yourself. Even when a person becomes
successful as an adult, if they have been damaged by parents
in their early years, they will
not be able to fully enjoy their success. It takes years and years to get over a bad
childhood, but it can be done. Knowing respect and manners is one way to
over
come a bad childhood.
“Teaching etiquette is the kindest thing you can do for a child. It predates law and
everything else in getting along with other people.” says
Margery Sinclair. These
are the first and the most important tools to learn as one
begins their
journey through life.
One develops common sense and good self-esteem just by
knowing respect and manners. Respect and manners are facts we must be
taught
and the earlier the better.
Each of us determines what our own life will be. We gather
information by observing and by trial and error. Your children do watch what you
do as well as what you say.
Teaching respect and manners to you child are more
important than leaving them a lot of money. A
parent’s job is to prepare you child
for life as an
honorable, civilized, law-abiding adult. Children will have a wonderful
childhood if their parents are there for them and leading by
example.
Our common bonds are we all want to be treated with respect
including children.
Once children know how to value themselves by civilized
society’s standards,
they develop a backbone and good self esteem. If someone says something
derogatory or unkind to them, they will know better and will
not be devastated by
unkind and untrue comments.
They will know the rude person is in the wrong and
not themselves. Bullies will have less power over children
with good self esteem.
As an adult, when your self-esteem is tied to honorable,
civilized values, a financial
set back will become an obstacle to overcome. It will not destroy you as a person.
Our book “A Year of Good Manners” by Margery Sinclair and
Jan Polk, offers
365 common, every day, courtesies written by Margery
Sinclair. Not only does
Margery use a humorous style to convey very important
information, she includes
a lot of verbs with
specific words of what to do or say.
Margery also includes the
reason to use each tip.
When the reason changes, then it may be time for the rule to
change. We do not include fancy terms and high brow
snooty information which
leaves you wondering “What
does that mean?”. “A Year of Good Manners” also
features Jan Polk’s Great American Flower Collection
“respect series” beautiful fine
art floral images which are reminders to treat yourself with
respect as
well as others.
The whole goal of civilized society is to be respectful to
self and others at all times.
Even though technology evolves, it does not wipe out the
fact that civilized people
are expected to be civilized to each other whether you see
them face to face or not.
Two people texting to each other in a room full of other
people is disrespectful. It is
equivalent to speaking a foreign language in front of
someone who does not speak
the language.
Private conversations are to be held in private. It is easy to hold
yourself to a higher standard when you know how and why.
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a crushing, harsh government that does not respect
individual rights and the well being of all of our people.
is only as strong as her people. We elect our leaders
from among ourselves yet we can stand without leaders if
necessary. We as
individuals decide how honorable and
self-reliant we will each be. Although we have a civic duty to
behave in an honorable and civilized manner, we choose to do
this because we want to.
Government cannot mandate or
enforce this aspect of our lives.
Proud Patriots and Legal Immigrants are the ones who
appreciate our country the most and
value our rule of law
which makes civilized society available to all. They know
what it is like elsewhere and do not take our freedoms for
granted. The bigger
the government, the more freedoms we
must give up.
We speak English to show respect to our country. We
acknowledge God as our Creator. We expect residents who
live here to speak English as a sign of appreciation and
respect
to be able to live
here. We expect our leaders to defend our
Constitution, our laws, and our freedoms. We expect our citizens
to do the same. These
are our common bonds.
Keep vigilant
they do. If
falls it is because our people are no longer
honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens in all walks of
life, including
big business and government. When only monetary gains determine
our actions, and honor and respect for each other are no
longer valued,
we will no longer be able to recover. High interest rates on
multi-trillion dollars of debt will keep us from being free.
United We Stand – Divided We Fall
May God continue to Bless
Happy July 4!
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