have been shaped.
It is so important to teach children to value themselves
because of their honor
(we can trust what they say) and because they are respectful,
civilized, law
abiding citizens. .
The goal of civilized society is to remain calm when displeased
and to show respect for life including your own. You don’t have to like everyone
you meet, but you do have to be respectful to all human
beings. When you install
values in your children solely on how they look
(pretty fades) or how much money
they have or don’t
have (there will always be someone who has
more) they will never
have good self esteem
and will always feel unsettled and may even develop unlikable
traits. When you destroy a child’s self esteem and try to
control their every move, you
have done a disservice to your child and to yourself. Even when a person becomes
successful as an adult, if they have been damaged by parents
in their early years, they will
not be able to fully enjoy their success. It takes years and years to get over a bad
childhood, but it can be done. Knowing respect and manners is one way to
over
come a bad childhood.
“Teaching etiquette is the kindest thing you can do for a child. It predates law and
everything else in getting along with other people.” says
Margery Sinclair. These
are the first and the most important tools to learn as one
begins their
journey through life.
One develops common sense and good self-esteem just by
knowing respect and manners. Respect and manners are facts we must be
taught
and the earlier the better.
Each of us determines what our own life will be. We gather
information by observing and by trial and error. Your children do watch what you
do as well as what you say.
Teaching respect and manners to you child are more
important than leaving them a lot of money. A
parent’s job is to prepare you child
for life as an
honorable, civilized, law-abiding adult. Children will have a wonderful
childhood if their parents are there for them and leading by
example.
Our common bonds are we all want to be treated with respect
including children.
Once children know how to value themselves by civilized
society’s standards,
they develop a backbone and good self esteem. If someone says something
derogatory or unkind to them, they will know better and will
not be devastated by
unkind and untrue comments.
They will know the rude person is in the wrong and
not themselves. Bullies will have less power over children
with good self esteem.
As an adult, when your self-esteem is tied to honorable,
civilized values, a financial
set back will become an obstacle to overcome. It will not destroy you as a person.
Our book “A Year of Good Manners” by Margery Sinclair and
Jan Polk, offers
365 common, every day, courtesies written by Margery
Sinclair. Not only does
Margery use a humorous style to convey very important
information, she includes
a lot of verbs with
specific words of what to do or say.
Margery also includes the
reason to use each tip.
When the reason changes, then it may be time for the rule to
change. We do not include fancy terms and high brow
snooty information which
leaves you wondering “What
does that mean?”. “A Year of Good Manners” also
features Jan Polk’s Great American Flower Collection
“respect series” beautiful fine
art floral images which are reminders to treat yourself with
respect as
well as others.
The whole goal of civilized society is to be respectful to
self and others at all times.
Even though technology evolves, it does not wipe out the
fact that civilized people
are expected to be civilized to each other whether you see
them face to face or not.
Two people texting to each other in a room full of other
people is disrespectful. It is
equivalent to speaking a foreign language in front of
someone who does not speak
the language.
Private conversations are to be held in private. It is easy to hold
yourself to a higher standard when you know how and why.
We invite you to treat yourself to this birthday book by
purchasing it at
www.janpolk.com “$27.95.
The perfect gift for new mothers and fathers!